Attachment speaks to the connection a child develops to their primary caretaker or figure. A poor or troubled relationship style impacts a child’s growth, ability to trust and form deep connections. Secondly, our experiences impact our adult relationship attachment style.
Bowlby’s theory on attachment
John Bowlby was a British psychoanalyst who studied infants and parents. His view was that infants cry and search for their parents as an adaptive response. After all, mammalian infants are entirely dependent on their parents
By crying, a child asks the important question as to whether their attachment figure is listening and available to their needs. If the child feels safe and cared for; they are able to explore and play. If not, the child will likely look anxious, visually search for their career or actively call out. If the child can’t connect with their caregiver, despite multiple attempts to get their attention, they will eventually feel worn down, despair and sadness.